6.They recognize the difference between fact and opinion.
6. 能够区别事实与观点的差异。
Irresistible people handle controversial topics and touchy subjects with grace and poise. They don’t shrink from sharing their opinions, but they make it clear that they’re opinions, not facts. Whether discussing global warming, politics, vaccine schedules, or GMO foods, irresistible people recognize that many people who are just as intelligent as they are see things differently.
万人迷能够优雅平静地处理一切纷争与敏感话题。他们不吝分享自己的观点，但他们会强调这些都只是观点，而不是事实。无论谈论的话题是气候变暖，国家政治，还是疫苗接种程序，或者是转基因食品，万人迷都能认清智力水平相当的人都有各自不同的观点的事实。
7.They are authentic.
7. 他们很真诚。
Irresistible people are who they are. Nobody has to burn up energy or brainpower trying to guess their agenda or predict what they’ll do next. They do this because they know that no one likes a fake.
万人迷就是他们自己。别人不需要费尽心思去揣测他们接下来的计划是什么。他们这么真实，是因为他们知道没有人喜欢虚伪的人。
People gravitate toward authentic individuals because they know they can trust them. It’s easy to resist someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
人们都受真诚的人吸引，那是因为他们知道这些人值得信任。当你无法真正地认识一个人，也无法感受他的真实所想的时候，你很难与他交往。
8.They have integrity.
8. 他们都言行一致。
People with high integrity are irresistible because they walk their talk, plain and simple. Integrity is a simple concept but a difficult thing to practice. To demonstrate integrity every day, irresistible people follow through, they avoid talking bad about other people, and they do the right thing, even when it hurts.
诚实正直的人常常都很受欢迎，那是因为他们能够履行承诺，踏实，简单。言行一致说起来很简单，但实践起来很难。万人迷每天都保持言行一致，避免说别人的坏话，甚至在造成伤害时也能很好地处理。
9.They smile.
9. 保持笑容。
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to find you irresistible, smile at them during conversations and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.
人们常常会自然地(和无意地)反思对方交谈时的肢体语言。如果你想给吸引他人，那么在交谈的时候多微笑，然后对方就会无意识地给你相应的反馈并且感觉良好。
10.They make an effort to look their best (just not too much of an effort).
10.适度保持自己的最佳状态。
There’s a massive difference between being presentable and being vain. Irresistible people understand that making an effort to look your best is comparable to cleaning your house before company comes—it’s a sign of respect for others. But once they’ve made themselves presentable, they stop thinking about it.
光洁体面与奢华虚荣之间的差别是非常大的。万人迷能够清楚认识，花点心思保持最佳状态就好比同事到家做客前的大扫除——都是对他人的尊重。不过一旦他们形成这种光彩照人的习惯，他们就不必再花费心思在这上面了。
11.They find reasons to love life.
11. 寻找生活的乐趣，热爱生活。
Irresistible people are positive and passionate. They’re never bored, because they see life as an amazing adventure and approach it with a joy that other people want to be a part of.
万人迷都是积极乐观，充满激情的。他们永远不会感到疲惫，因为他们把生活当作一次奇妙的冒险旅程，并带着快乐去探索，感染身边的人，以致别人也想成为其中的一员。
It’s not that irresistible people don’t have problems—even big ones—but they approach problems as temporary obstacles, not inescapable fate. When things go wrong, they remind themselves that a bad day is just one day, and they keep hope that tomorrow or next week or next month will be better.
然而万人迷并不是没有烦恼的，甚至是很严重的烦恼，但是他们把这些烦恼当作暂时性的障碍，而不是不可摆脱的命运。当事情乱了套，他们会提醒自己，糟糕的一天也只是一天而已，他们仍然会对明天或下周，或下个月充满希望，相信一切会好起来。
Bringing it all together.
小结
Irresistible people did not have fairy godmothers hovering over their cribs. They’ve simply perfected certain appealing qualities and habits that anyone can adopt as their own.They think about other people more than they think about themselves, and they make other people feel liked, respected, understood, and seen. Just remember: the more you focus on others, the more irresistible you’ll be.
万人迷没有仙女教母为他们摇摇蓝，他们仅仅是完善了某些吸引人的特质和习惯，其实每个人都可以借鉴。他们在乎他人多于在乎自己，他们努力让他人感受到喜爱，尊重，理解和关注。只需要记住：你越留意他人，你就越有魅力。
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